In my April 24th article I talked about my belief that we do not usually walk a clear, straight path to success and gave you three of the top 10 ingredients I have used to create my success in releasing weight.
This article will cover another four tips.
No matter what our goals when we set them there is a gap between where we are currently and where we intend to be when we’ve reached the goal. I believe it is important to pay attention to our language and I encourage you to have a look at what language you use to describe this gap.
Are you saying you are not successful because you are not there yet? Or do you put a more positive spin on it and recognize your soul is urging you to become the next best version of you?
I hope it’s the latter.
Some people seem to do better when someone stands over them cracking a whip. That does not work for me. My next four ingredients come from what works best for my personality and will give you a peek at my heart-centred coaching strategy for clients.
1. Compassion is essential to personal growth. I do not believe in shame or guilt as motivators. If we take the outlook that we are always doing the best we can at the time, it’s much easier to take responsibility for where we are and also to recognize when we could step it up a notch or two.
Shame and guilt vibrate at the lowest frequency of emotions according to Dr. David Hawkins Map of Consciousness. Think about a time when you felt shame or guilt about something you did or didn’t do. How empowered do you feel right now?
If you’re like me, you just feel yucky and want to hide rather than move into action. Do you have anything you need to be compassionate about to empower you?
2. Take responsibility for where we are now. We created it through our previous beliefs and behaviours. When we admit this it gives us greater power because we stop blaming anyone or any circumstance. We can take appropriate action to change whatever beliefs or behaviours are necessary to create new results.
For example with the weight release, I can say I have a slow metabolism and that’s why I am overweight. However, I didn’t help myself by sitting at my computer all day and rarely moving my body energetically. That actually added to the problem of the slow metabolism.
What I found once I began regular exercise and built muscle was my body was able to burn calories faster and my release of weight sped up.
Where could taking responsibility for your current circumstances make a difference between success and the same old results for you?
3. Commitment is another key. We have to commit and re-commit and re-commit whenever we engage in change that requires a long-term process. I found having a future vision motivated me during the early days when the results of my program were not easy to notice. I looked at that vision mentally and committed to making it a reality.
I commit to my exercise program and put my class into my planner weeks in advance to ensure I do not book something else in that time period. I also look for when I can take another class at the gym or work out on my own and schedule that each week.
What are you committed to achieving in your life? Have you found you had to make that commitment more than once to succeed?
4. Consistent action in small steps creates the end result. Even if you move forward an inch a day, you are going towards your goal.
I pay attention to what I am doing differently. It’s pretty easy to overlook small changes and that can make me feel as though I am not doing enough. When I stop and notice what I am doing differently and congratulate myself for every action I take I am motivated to continue.
What actions are you taking to reach your goals? Are you paying attention to what you’re doing?
Having a coach who sees the best in you and holds you accountable can make all the difference in successfully reaching your goals. Email me to make an appointment to discuss how Heart Power Coaching can support you in your success. rosemary@rosemaryheenan.com