Love and Social Responsibility

Making the World a Safer Place for Everyone to Be Themselves.

This morning I went on Facebook early to leave a message for a friend. I happened on three different posts that all came together for me to create today’s article.

The first was about a Calgary, Alberta area teen who found a hateful message on her locker. She was motivated to begin an anti-bullying campaign by spreading positive messages on all the lockers in her high school. Her message spread and people in businesses adopted it.

Perhaps you find it easier to care about other people and rally to support them, before you think about being more loving to yourself. I know I used to think that way. However, I have come to realize the kinder and more loving I am to me, the kinder and more loving I am to others. The less I judge myself harshly, the less I judge other people.

Just like they tell you on the airplanes, put your own oxygen mask on first when you’re flying with someone who is dependent on you. The same holds true in everyday life. We cannot give what we do not have.

… Or at least, we cannot give to the same depth we are able when we are filled up first.

So begin where you are and do what you can to make it safe for you to be your authentic self, fully expressed and sharing your magnificence in the world.

Spread the love to others. Send positive messages in the form of compliments, appreciations, thanks, “I care about you”, “you are amazing”, “I love your smile”, “I am thinking about you” etc. messages.

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The second was a Huffington Post video asking why are we not doing more to remove the stigma of mental illness. “That’s the question posed in a new video from Newfoundland and Labrador musician Amelia Curran that stars just about every celebrity you can think of from The Rock.”

I doubt I know a single person who hasn’t wrestled with some form of mental illness at one time or another in her/his life. I’ve had bouts of depression; lost loved ones to suicide, watched friends do their best to care for their family members with severe mental illness, and seen grief turn into despair after a personal loss.

And, I am certain you can say something similar.

So let’s do our part to make mental health a higher priority in our world. I invite you to help me spread the word that we want to see people who need help be able to access that help. Let’s support campaigns to take the stigma off mental illness, fully fund research and programs of support so everyone can live the best lives possible.

Remember those who are deemed “different” and therefore, in some people’s eyes, “less than” are just like you and me in God’s eyes. Let’s help spread the love to everyone and be more like the spirit we really are.

Love yourself and be a role model to others of how to treat people with loving kindness.

The third, seemingly unrelated post came from author Elizabeth Gilbert and hers was on being authentic.

And that’s what I believe is essential right now. Stand up as you really are. Speak out and tell the world what you think and what is important to you. Be the silly child, the gifted artist, the open-hearted helper, the bossy, opinionated one that got shut down when you were young. I guarantee there is a gift in your authentic self that the world needs from you.

Don’t let the bullies or the well-meaning, but unaware adults, or whomever it was that told you to stop being you hold you back any longer. Express and claim your magnificence and as you do so, you make it safer for others to do the same.

Warmest, Rosemary

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Making it Safe to Be You

trust yourselfDid you grow up feeling as though you were different than others? How did that make you feel?

If you were like me, and many of my clients, it was awful. We felt as though there was something wrong with us because we weren’t like other people in our families or among our peers.

And for many of us, it wasn’t safe to be who we were, so we stifled ourselves and did our best to conform, so we would be loved and accepted.

And then, that uniqueness was lost. And life became like a weird masquerade party, where we showed up dressed as close as possible to what we thought the rest of the guests would wear. At least, that was how I played my part.

Others carved themselves out to be the most outrageously different they could be, the rebel, the non-conformist to the extreme. They found safety in making sure they caused the expected rejection, rather than experiencing the effect of being rejected.

Can you relate?

If you can, then I don’t have to tell you what a mess we make of our lives when we live with that special spark that makes us unique stifled and our outward expression guaranteed to not get us the love and acceptance we desire.

But times have changed and are changing faster and faster.

There’s a whole new paradigm being created by people just like you and me who refuse:

  • to feel like there’s something wrong with us because we feel deeply
  • to hide out any longer
  • to play small
  • to feel like a victim
  • to not speak our truth
  • to feel ashamed because we aren’t perfect

We’ve turned down the volume on the voices that tell us to shape up and be like others and we’ve turned up the volume of our hearts, our souls.

It’s time to stand out again and share our unique “beingness” with others.

It’s time for using all our courage to be our magnificent selves.

Someone, somewhere needs you, and only you. Whether your destiny is to work with a relatively small group, such as a family, or a community or you have a starring role on centre stage matters not. You do have a song to sing that belongs to only you.

Are you willing?

Please don’t sell out your soul purpose for comfort and the illusion of safety.

Warmest, Rosemary

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Love, Faith, and Letting Go

This week’s message is about letting go.

  • Letting go of what is safe, or comfortable.
  • Letting go of behaviours that get a payoff, but at a cost.
  • Shedding what no longer fits to make room for the new.

A month ago, I woke up to a realization that I no longer resonate with the brand, The Miracle of Money Mentor.

And that was the day I was to do a free webinar, I had been promoting for weeks.

I asked myself, “What should I do?”

I recognized that as I had been writing the webinar content, I had created something much more spiritual in nature than I had expected when I began the promotion. I’d written the content for the webinar and delivered it only one week before, but found that by the time I completed the content, it didn’t match the page I was directing people to for the 6 week program.

In the past, I would have been terrified and my inner dialogue would have been something along the lines of:

“OMG, I am a fraud.”

“I messed up. I’m not good enough to run a business.”

“Who do I think I am?”

Yada yada yada. Blech!

But this time was different.

Yes, I was a little stressed. Yes, a bit concerned about what people might think if it wasn’t perfect. But only a little and it didn’t make me close up shop, bury my head in a bag of cookies or spend hours doing whatever I could to go numb to my discomfort. (Life Lesson in my hands: Stuffed Feelings)

Instead I trusted the intuition that has been guiding me in recent months. I delivered the webinar as I had created it and changed the sales page to coincide with the language of the webinar.

And then I dropped it all. Including the fear that I would have to start all over again without the Miracle of Money Mentor brand I have been developing for 2½ years.

I knew I needed to listen to my internal guidance that was telling me I had something more I wanted to share.

Hand holding a heartWhen I listened and stopped, the ideal teachers showed up right away. I began to work with some people who can help me refine and articulate my deeper purpose as a Healer with Heart (Life Purpose and Life School in my hands).

What does all this have to do with Love and Faith?

My regular “I love you” practice has given me courage to listen and act more on my intuition. To bypass what my head is saying is rational, and therefore the right thing to do. My faith is giving me trust in my inner guidance and removing any fear that I am not completely taken care of. I always have been and I always will be.

And that is true for you as well. … And the only way to know that is to live it and see what happens.

You have to love yourself enough to do what is best for you. And you can only know that by having the courage to listen to that still, small voice inside and act on what it tells you. Even when your head is saying, it makes no sense. It’s foolish, foolhardy, and dangerous.

Let go of your doubts and trust your inner wisdom.

aloneI’m also letting go of my fears that people won’t like me if I don’t put them first. I got lots of payoffs from making other people happy.

However, taking care of other people first is not good for me. It leaves me with not enough energy and time to do what is important to me. And it feeds right into that Life Lesson of mine. When I feel emotionally violated, I numb out.

I was recently told to take care of myself first, and then take care of others with what is left over. Hmm, that’s a slightly different way of saying the same advice I’ve given to other people. But I had to let go of needing people to like me in order to take my own advice.

This letting go is part of a transformation or metamorphosis of my business which you will see developing over the next while. I see how everything I have been studying and practicing in the past 20 years is coming together into a new expression of business under the revised business name of Heart Powered Coaching.

I look forward to sharing this path of empowerment with you.

All is well.

Warmest, Rosemary

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What if You Knew You Were Perfect?

One of the blessings of doing hand analysis readings for people is watching the “OMG, now it all makes sense” moments. Those moments when a client realizes her life to date was absolutely ideal for her incubation to be what her purpose calls on.

And those, “So you mean there’s nothing wrong with me; I was supposed to have trouble with this” sighs of relief as she discovers her life lesson set her up to be challenged in this specific way.

What if there is nothing wrong with you, just as you are, and everything you’ve experienced was for your good?
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Who would you be without your story? The late Debbie Ford was the first person who ever asked me that question. When I studied with Debbie back in the ‘90’s I learned that I could step out of a particular story (belief about myself) and take on a different persona, just by acting “as if” I believed something different.

And then I forgot I could do that. For many years, I went back in and out of the old stories of “not good enough, thin enough, too old, not enough money, there’s something wrong with me”, etc. etc. etc.

Periodically, I would get a reprieve and remember who I really was deep inside. And those were glorious times. I would be filled with enthusiasm, learn something new, and share that with others, and get wonderful results.

And then I would slip back into the downward spiral again.

Does that sound familiar to you and your life?

I’ve come to realize it’s part of the human journey, unless we saturate ourselves with inspiration and love.

I believe the time is here for all of us who have felt called to make a real difference in the world to do our very best to not allow the ego to take control of our thoughts and emotions.

And it’s time to stop telling the stories of the past and keep our attention on the life we desire. It’s time to breathe in all the wonderful things we can do and how magnificent we are, first by asking our hearts what they feel; and second by not judging ourselves by the standards of people who don’t have what we want.

If you get really quiet, slow down your breath and sit in silence, your heart will speak to you. It will tell you to keep doing this, I feel good; or stop doing this, it hurts.

You have a purpose, a reason for being here on planet earth at this time. Everything you need to live that purpose is inside of you, including the wisdom of choosing the perfect teachers and experiences so you can share your gift in the world.

Take responsibility for your life.

I mean this in the most loving way, because responsibility is empowering. Just as Debbie Ford taught us to love all aspects of ourselves, being responsible allows you to respond to anything by taking a really clear look at it and find the good in it. The good may be seeing that you need to let something go that is keeping you small, holding you back, or making you feel powerless. Or the good may be to fully embrace your gifts and share them with the people who are open to receiving them.

Let go of everything else but the good, love yourself completely and then share your unique magnificence with others.

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Warmest, Rosemary

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Does it Feel Like Everything is Topsy Turvy? Stay Calm in the Midst of Chaos

Does it seem that time is racing faster than ever?

Are you feeling overwhelmed with commitments?

Do you say “yes” to something, and then find you have to say “no”?

Are you flooded with very appealing offers, but you can’t add one more program to your schedule?

Whew! Kinda makes you feel crazy, doesn’t it?

Time out! Relax. Stop!

Now ask yourself, where are YOU in the middle of all of this?

If your answer is peaceful and authentic and good with all of the chaos, go ahead and stop reading. Maybe next week’s article is for you.

For everyone else still here, take a very deep breath and let go of any negative internal chatter that there’s something wrong with you.

This is time to get completely calm and centred. Just like being in the eye of the hurricane is the calmest spot, when it feels as though everything calls on you to rush, rush, rush, I say STOP!
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It’s time to look inside and be sure you feel really connected to your most authentic self. If you don’t, you’ll find yourself trying to be and do what other experts tell you is necessary. And, isn’t that exactly what happened growing up when you were told who you were just wasn’t right?

That’s what’s been going on in my life. I took a “Day out of Time” (Almine) a couple of weeks ago and have been deliberately slow ever since. At least as much as I could, given that I can be pretty driven.

I am doing a lot of introspection to be certain I am staying true to my life purpose in my business and life. Am I being as heart-centred as I want to be, or am I falling prey to world views that there’s not enough and I have to get there first, or I will lose out?

Then I go back to what I teach – this is an abundant universe. How could there be scarcity if I don’t get somewhere first?

So, that can’t be true, what’s next?

Someone else is doing a better job than I am? According to whom?

With me, it’s my inner critic who still maintains only perfection is good enough. And again I inquire, “Who is the ultimate authority on perfection?” I’d say that’s God, and I believe God thinks I am perfect no matter what. And so are you.

So, someone else doing it better can’t be true either. And so it goes.

I could go on with lots more examples, but I think you can get a sense of this process.

I invite you to try it on this week.

STOP. DROP inside. And ASK relevant questions. (We had a fire drill where I live this weekend. LOL)

  • Am I connected to my PURPOSE?
  • Am I committed to my TRUTH?
  • Am I living life the way I DESIRE?

I invite you to comment below or on Facebook and I look forward to reading what comes up for you.

Enjoy a calm week.

Warmest, Rosemary

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